BLISS

Hey guys, I’m actually actively trying to write again on here and I know I said it before but here’s me actually doing it! (I’m totally not avoiding making a presentation due in two days…) So hello!

The title gives away what this post will be about. So, I’m going to be talking about my bliss and how I found it.

Joseph Campbell, an author famous for promoting the idea of the hero’s journey in literature once said this: “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”

For me, bliss is the same as whatever you’re passionate about. I am lucky that I have found it so early in life. It isn’t easy to find something that can keep you enraptured and captivated for life.

But bliss isn’t just about what makes you happy (its not selfish thing), being intoxicated or doing things or being addicted to things that give you the illusion of happiness is not the same. Its something that you will find yourself always coming back to. It is something that you can do for hours and feel like it had been an exciting five minutes.

Following your bliss, is adding a vitality and meaning to your life that you would not have normally have found doing something you feel you should do, for example, choosing a job for its potential income or choosing a job because you care what other people think or want of you.

I found my bliss unknowingly the very first time I was in my grandmother’s sewing room. I had not realized at that moment at 8 years old that I would start cultivating a life long love of design and fashion. As the years went on, I never truly believed I would ever truly be able to work in the fashion industry – it seemed too risky – but I still dreamed of it. Fast forward to senior year and I had started to doubt whether or not I should pursue it as my parents wanted me to be a teacher (nothing wrong with that but I wasn’t super enthusiastic about it). I was so indecisive, there was a hesitance to my college applications, a hesitation to that commitment to something I didn’t really want.

So, I’m to take classes at community college but I decide to start my monthly dress series right before classes start and that spark to design is reignited but is still hesitant. I was still unsure of what I wanted for my life and I decide for the winter- why not? – to take one of the college’s fashion design courses and I knew then that the only thing I wanted to do with my life was design, to create and to beautify. I had never known a happiness and a love for something so great until it finally clicked in my heart and in my head that this was my passion, my talent, my path. It was an amazing feeling in the moment. I continue my monthly dresses and now I’m hustling because I’m taking on two more design classes each taking up 15 hours of my week on top of two other general ed. classes and now I’m super stressed, always sewing, always thinking about what I have to do next. I’ll transfer to the fashion school I had been thinking about forever in October.But I will say that I have never been so happy to feel so frustrated and tired and overworked.

This is my bliss and I’m going after it.

Playing A Part

Playing A Part

Hey guys! I realize that I did miss a post on Sunday and that’s because I’m working on something big that’ll be revealed soon.

Anyways, so, today I’m going to be elaborating on the explanation of my motto.

Like everyone else, I have a motto that I live by and it was a culmination of my love for fashion and showmanship (I suppose it also appeals to my vanity as well). I had always and still do believe that the way you present yourself is extremely important. It’s confidence when you go out dressed and you are proud of what you show to the world. It’s being different in a way that doesn’t affect anyone else. It’s almost like playing a character everyday-and the character is who you wish you were and having belief in that you can become what you wish, and so in the process becoming the best version of yourself.

I think that ultimately we want to be the best versions of ourselves and the way you dress, and the way you present yourself is half the battle won. You want to present yourself with dignity and confidence because that is important in being successful in anything you put yourself to achieving.

A DAY IN THE LIFE OF ME

 

 

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DAY4

Hey guys! it’s officially day 4 of my a-post-a-day challenge!

So, today’s topic is body image and my advice for loving your body no matter what.

Let’s paint a picture.

Imagine a Taiwanese and Vietnamese mix, 4’11 girl.

She has short hair a little past her shoulders and wears glasses too big for her baby face (but that’s how she likes it).

She’s got so-called ‘small bones,’ with a 23 ½ inch waist, 31 ½ inch hips, and 31 inch bust.

She’s got an arch in her foot because she wore heels at too young an age and that arch is not natural but she looks like she has dancers’ feet now.

She has no thigh gap, she’s got hip dips and belly rolls (just like everybody else) and jiggly upper arms.

I’ve always been told that I was short and much too skinny.

People would always ask me if I was anorexic or bulimic-but I swear I’m not.

My sister calls me fat all the time (not in a malicious way-she just means I have to get up from the couch and go exercise).

I’ve never felt uncomfortable with how I look because I’m confident in myself and that while appearances are important-its how I present myself to others that detract from how I look and put more emphasis on my personality.

I’ve been ‘skinny-shamed,’ and I’ve been called ‘vertically challenged,’ but I’ve never really cared because I’m content with the way I am. You know, its easy to overlook these comments if you’re truly confident in yourself. I make jokes about my height all the time-its easier to win hide and seek by the way.

You can learn to love yourself by: standing in front of a mirror and just say one positive thing about yourself every day; wear the right clothes, ones that make you feel ready to take on the world (I didn’t win best dressed senior by wearing sweats every day ya know); focus on being a good person to those around you-your friends can build up your confidence better than you can alone; there’s plenty of other ways other bloggers have discovered that I haven’t thought of.

The plus-size community is a pretty powerful group of people sharing self-love and image positivity. The reason that this group in particular is so successful, is because they have icons and activists who are confident in themselves and their identity and their fans share that confidence (because we all want to imitate our idols).

If you don’t feel comfortable with the way you are now-then change to be better. If you don’t love your rolls or your love handles, exercise and work for the body you want. It’s all about mindset, you have to believe that you can do it-because in the end if its something that you really want, then you just do it. You can complain and whine as much as you want-as long as you get the job done. There are a lot of people who wallow in self-pity because they’re not happy with the way they are-and what I say to them is this:

“Don’t hate on society for shaming you when you shame yourself. It’s a different story if you accept and love yourself just the way you are. But if you wish that you had the body of a model from that magazine you like, if you wish to look different from the way you are now-then you have to change your attitude. Work hard to obtain the changes you want-because there will always be body-shamers out there and it’s easy to blame them. Don’t take the easy way out.”

I’m not saying its easy. I’m not saying that it’ll be instant results. I’m not saying that you should change to conform to society’s expectations of beautiful (because that is always changing)-but if its your own personal goal-if the reason you want to change is to better yourself-then you have to work hard.

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