Playing A Part

Hey guys! I realize that I did miss a post on Sunday and that’s because I’m working on something big that’ll be revealed soon.

Anyways, so, today I’m going to be elaborating on the explanation of my motto.

Like everyone else, I have a motto that I live by and it was a culmination of my love for fashion and showmanship (I suppose it also appeals to my vanity as well). I had always and still do believe that the way you present yourself is extremely important. It’s confidence when you go out dressed and you are proud of what you show to the world. It’s being different in a way that doesn’t affect anyone else. It’s almost like playing a character everyday-and the character is who you wish you were and having belief in that you can become what you wish, and so in the process becoming the best version of yourself.

I think that ultimately we want to be the best versions of ourselves and the way you dress, and the way you present yourself is half the battle won. You want to present yourself with dignity and confidence because that is important in being successful in anything you put yourself to achieving.

A DAY IN THE LIFE OF ME

 

 

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DAY4

Hey guys! it’s officially day 4 of my a-post-a-day challenge!

So, today’s topic is body image and my advice for loving your body no matter what.

Let’s paint a picture.

Imagine a Taiwanese and Vietnamese mix, 4’11 girl.

She has short hair a little past her shoulders and wears glasses too big for her baby face (but that’s how she likes it).

She’s got so-called ‘small bones,’ with a 23 ½ inch waist, 31 ½ inch hips, and 31 inch bust.

She’s got an arch in her foot because she wore heels at too young an age and that arch is not natural but she looks like she has dancers’ feet now.

She has no thigh gap, she’s got hip dips and belly rolls (just like everybody else) and jiggly upper arms.

I’ve always been told that I was short and much too skinny.

People would always ask me if I was anorexic or bulimic-but I swear I’m not.

My sister calls me fat all the time (not in a malicious way-she just means I have to get up from the couch and go exercise).

I’ve never felt uncomfortable with how I look because I’m confident in myself and that while appearances are important-its how I present myself to others that detract from how I look and put more emphasis on my personality.

I’ve been ‘skinny-shamed,’ and I’ve been called ‘vertically challenged,’ but I’ve never really cared because I’m content with the way I am. You know, its easy to overlook these comments if you’re truly confident in yourself. I make jokes about my height all the time-its easier to win hide and seek by the way.

You can learn to love yourself by: standing in front of a mirror and just say one positive thing about yourself every day; wear the right clothes, ones that make you feel ready to take on the world (I didn’t win best dressed senior by wearing sweats every day ya know); focus on being a good person to those around you-your friends can build up your confidence better than you can alone; there’s plenty of other ways other bloggers have discovered that I haven’t thought of.

The plus-size community is a pretty powerful group of people sharing self-love and image positivity. The reason that this group in particular is so successful, is because they have icons and activists who are confident in themselves and their identity and their fans share that confidence (because we all want to imitate our idols).

If you don’t feel comfortable with the way you are now-then change to be better. If you don’t love your rolls or your love handles, exercise and work for the body you want. It’s all about mindset, you have to believe that you can do it-because in the end if its something that you really want, then you just do it. You can complain and whine as much as you want-as long as you get the job done. There are a lot of people who wallow in self-pity because they’re not happy with the way they are-and what I say to them is this:

“Don’t hate on society for shaming you when you shame yourself. It’s a different story if you accept and love yourself just the way you are. But if you wish that you had the body of a model from that magazine you like, if you wish to look different from the way you are now-then you have to change your attitude. Work hard to obtain the changes you want-because there will always be body-shamers out there and it’s easy to blame them. Don’t take the easy way out.”

I’m not saying its easy. I’m not saying that it’ll be instant results. I’m not saying that you should change to conform to society’s expectations of beautiful (because that is always changing)-but if its your own personal goal-if the reason you want to change is to better yourself-then you have to work hard.

QUEEN

I rather like naming the titles with one word in all caps-it makes it seem mysterious and serious.

Anyways, as you know-or maybe not, I don’t know-I’m a senior in high school and one of the biggest events of the year-that most little girls dream of- is coming up: P R O M. And we all see the pictures and the dresses and the glitz and the glamour, BUT there’s a lot of random, stupid things that happen, that most people don’t talk about and I am here to enlighten all of y’all. THE MOST ANNOYING THING ABOUT PROM IS: the freaking planning of it all. Sure, the buying of the outfit is mildly stressful and maybe getting a date or choosing to go with friends is also mildly stressful, BUT no one talks about the annoyance that is planning, especially if you go with friends like I did.

  1. You have that one friend that wants to go to crazy places to take pictures.
  2. You have that other friend that just cares about how much everything costs (that’s good!).
  3. You have that one friend who is completely anal about doing realistic planning that is actually possible (this friend and the first clash quite a bit) (also me LOL).
  4. You have that friend that also just doesn’t care about the plans and will pretty much go along with whatever the group decides.
  5. And then there is the friend that, last minute decides that they can’t go.

So, you think, maybe I’m better off going with a date?

But then you have to do some of the same planning-as with friends and you’d only have to discuss with one other person, BUT there’s way more planning that has to be done on top of that:

  1. Color coordination
  2. The Boutonnieres and Corsages.
  3. Meeting the girl’s family (a MUST)
  4. Dancing (gotta plan some good dance moves)

There might be other things that gotta be planned but these are the bigger things.

But, I digress, the experience is worth it, after all, I am a firm believer in experiencing everything at least once, especially if an opportunity to do so is presented.

Now, that being said, I did the most embarrassing thing in the world (debatable LOL), I put my name down to be part of the prom court as a joke. Now, in the previous years, it was the teachers who would decide who was on the prom court, but of course, this year it all changed. DUH DUH DUUUHH. Anyways, suffice to say that I am not the most popular person in the world, like yeah, I’m nice to people and I don’t really have drama with people but I’m not well known-ya know? So, I didn’t get on court-and didn’t really expect to… so yeah.

But yeah, anyways, prom can be a real pain to plan, but in the moment, it all seems worth it.